It is six weeks into the school year. Do you know what time it is? For our school, it is finishing up fall sports and round one of parent – teacher conferences.
As a parent, conferences are stressful. Is my kid performing up to grade level? What is the reading level? Does he have friends? Is she getting her name on the board? I am a parent and an educator, I worry and fret about my childrens’ future. They may not be valedictorians or AP bound or honor roll candidates, but I do want them to perform their best. As I tell our oldest, “I want you to be the best M you can be”.
When conferences roll around and the hubs and I are waiting on tiny hard plastic chairs, my skin begins to tingle, I get a little sweaty, and my leg begins a trembling bounce. I feel like I’m about to walk into the principal’s office! Do I have a reason to have a mild panic attack? No, we have good kids, but my body automatically initiates mid range panic whether I press the button or not. My hubby gets a little annoyed and uses his counselor ways to calm my nerves. Well he tries.
This year I approached conferences from the educator side walking in my parent shoes. Perhaps parents walking through my doors are experiencing similar levels of panic, anxiety, and nervousness. Maybe just before stepping into the school, they also secretly wish for calming spirits to wash over them.
For day one of parent meetings, I aimed to walk in parent’s shoes. What would I want to hear first? How can I best accentuate the positives and calm the areas of needs?
I went to my daily Young Living Essential Oil regimen for inspiration. Each morning I start my routine with a dab of Joy behind each ear and over my heart. May my ears hear the joy in my children’s voices and the needs of my students. The drop over the heart to remind me that teaching and parenting is a joyful experience. Well, most of the time. Peace & Calming on my neck to calm the soul and bring peace to my active mind. Finally Stress Away…parenting and education, ‘nuf said. ;)
Digging into my oil arsenal, I wanted parents, no matter the student educational or behavioral situation, to feel the vibe. Joy. Peace. Calming. And no stressful presence this conference go around. Guess what? I believe it worked. Parents left smiling. Others said “thank you”. A few cried, tears of joy. One commented, “I never thought we would get to this point. He’s come so far.” Sure the talk was not all rosy with unicorns and rainbows, as a co-worker likes to say, but a difficult message can be expressed with care and concern.
As day two of conferences came to a close, I recalled a parent the previous day commenting as she walked out the door, “I have been waiting for a conference like this since he was little”. She shouldn’t have to wait so long. Look for the good. Find the positive. See and seize the moment. I’m trying to walk the talk.
Tomorrow, it’s our turn to be in the hot seat. I’ll get a dose of my daily trio, take a deep breathe, and relax. “It’s all good” as my husband likes to say. And you know what, he’s right.
Shh, just don’t tell him.